No No No.. this is not another blog on marriages or the debate on arranged vs. love marriages. Turning 29 and still remaining single doesn't leave much scope either, because more than half the population you know is already married and the remaining ones are committed enough to get into one. The only few like me, who still dangle around, leave their fate in the hands of matrimonial websites.
In our social circles , when you hit this age bracket , all you and your parents and the extended family care about is for you to get a decent job and get settled. While now, I neither have a job nor have any settlements. On the other hand, I would want to know whether people who are married really feel they are settled and in what sense. I believe they have just ticked one of the items on their To-Do list.
So now, since I have to go through this entire protocol of arranged marriage, these days all I am looking at is numerous profiles on websites and columns in newspapers. Being a recruitment professional, I feel this is no different than any recruitment process that a company would follow. "Finding the right person for the right job". You first create a pool, do a face to face round with the short-listings, have some negotiations and finally hire. Although, the scope for resigning is very less here.
After all the fights and arguments at home, my first face to face round was planned. When you don't find the profile appropriate and yet you have to meet the person with half heart, all you hear is "Mil to le, Milne mein kya jata hai". And so I met this guy and his family. I must say if you are checking somebody's profile on Facebook before meeting him/her in person, you might be well misguided. I admit, I did and I was. My parents were so excited as if I was going to get married in that very moment. But the fate had something else in store. Apparently, our "Vichaars"(thoughts) were not in sync and so the process came to end. I felt relieved for once but the thought that I will have to go through more such encounters disappointed me.
The phrase "First Official Date" was coined by the guy whom I met that day. All thanks to him, I am able to write this post. Also, it makes me think, how can you choose a person, to be with for rest of your life, over a 20 minute chit chat session and asking questions like "Do you cook...because I am a foodie"(My subconscious slams...Boy.. I am a foodie too.. so will you cook for me), "Do you like partying"(Alright ...Do I look like an alien to you) and worst of all "What are your hobbies"(Ok ... Shut up... )?? That's all... Devil!!!
PS :- Just for laughs read funny Matrimonial Ads.
PPS:- No age to get married or fall in Love!!!
So now, since I have to go through this entire protocol of arranged marriage, these days all I am looking at is numerous profiles on websites and columns in newspapers. Being a recruitment professional, I feel this is no different than any recruitment process that a company would follow. "Finding the right person for the right job". You first create a pool, do a face to face round with the short-listings, have some negotiations and finally hire. Although, the scope for resigning is very less here.
After all the fights and arguments at home, my first face to face round was planned. When you don't find the profile appropriate and yet you have to meet the person with half heart, all you hear is "Mil to le, Milne mein kya jata hai". And so I met this guy and his family. I must say if you are checking somebody's profile on Facebook before meeting him/her in person, you might be well misguided. I admit, I did and I was. My parents were so excited as if I was going to get married in that very moment. But the fate had something else in store. Apparently, our "Vichaars"(thoughts) were not in sync and so the process came to end. I felt relieved for once but the thought that I will have to go through more such encounters disappointed me.
The phrase "First Official Date" was coined by the guy whom I met that day. All thanks to him, I am able to write this post. Also, it makes me think, how can you choose a person, to be with for rest of your life, over a 20 minute chit chat session and asking questions like "Do you cook...because I am a foodie"(My subconscious slams...Boy.. I am a foodie too.. so will you cook for me), "Do you like partying"(Alright ...Do I look like an alien to you) and worst of all "What are your hobbies"(Ok ... Shut up... )?? That's all... Devil!!!
PS :- Just for laughs read funny Matrimonial Ads.
PPS:- No age to get married or fall in Love!!!
